Nothing Happens Until You Decide

I spoke with several different people this week who shared with me that they were unhappy with their lives.  One wanted to leave and unhappy job, the other an unhappy relationship, and the last one an unhappy environment (place of residence).  I was simply amazed at the number of people in one room who felt as if they had no way out.  I asked them all two questions. What made them think that there was no way out? and, What made them continue to go through the same unhappy experience everyday?  They all stated "maybe SOMETHING will happen and things will CHANGE."  I said "ok, and what exactly is that SOMETHING?"  The room all of a sudden became quiet, no one said a word.  Then they all said together "I don't know!"  I thought to myself, we choose to wait often for other people to make choices for our lives.  We somehow forget that WE are the controllers of our experience.  We can choose to make a decision that will change the direction of our lives and create happiness or we can wait until eternity for "SOMETHING" outside of our selves to happen, which will most likely NEVER happen.  It's a must that we take SELF RESPONSIBILITY for our very own LIFE!  We have to make a decision and move FORWARD in order to create change.  When there is a decision to be made and the decider never makes a choice, the GOAL is never obtained.  Nothing will ever happen unless we are willing to DECIDE. I gave them an example of a person getting on an elevator.  The person steps on the elevator and the elevator door closes. Unless the person presses a button and chooses what floor they are going to, the elevator will never move.  And so it is with US.   I told them all that if they wanted happiness they had to DECIDE when they wanted it.  They all said "NOW!" I said "ok, that is the first step." I said "Now your next step is to decide how your going to create it."  They all stated again that they didn't know how.  I told them all that the point that I was trying to get across was that in almost everything we do in life choosing to DECIDE is the basis for it ALL.  In order to create CHANGE action must be taken! SHIFTING or MOVEMENT is required.   Making the decision on "the what" and "the how."  Deciding what it is that you want: what the GOAL is, then deciding how to go about obtaining the GOAL.  All you have to do is DECIDE...DECIDE.. DECIDE.... LOL! Nothing ever happens until WE DECIDE!